Men :: Surgical Impotence With An Active Libido


Mar 8, 2011

I am a 71 year old male. About 14 years ago, I had a high rating on a PSA test, which lead to a twelve needle biopsy. The results were rated as a Gleason 8 tumor. My urologist said the type of prostate cancer I had was very aggressive and that we needed to take some action. At that time, I was told my options were radiation and/or surgery. Prostate cancer had occurred in both of my Grandfathers. My father had not come back from WWII so I had no information on him. However, I had done some research into what I would do if prostate cancer visited me. I opted for a radical prostatectomy. Both my urologist and the pathologist believed that the surgery got all the cancer, and saw no value in radiation. As it turned out, I have never had much of anything to speak of on any subsequent PSA tests. Oh joy and rapture. I am alive, and doing well with one exception. Prior to the cancer diagnosis, my wife and I had a very active sex life. We had been married for over 25 years and had engaged in some form of sex on an average of twenty or so times a month. When my wife learned of my cancer, she asked for a divorce. Following the surgery, I was impotent and of course could no longer ejaculate. On the advice of a crusty older nurse, God Bless her, I learned that I could masturbate to a sort of semi erection and achieve an orgasm. However I entered a period of depression and when I finally found my way out of it, I could no longer achieve an orgasm. Following a discussion with my urologist, I tried some injections directly into the penis that was supposed to result in an erection, but it was not satisfactory, and the whole idea of sticking a needle into my penis was not very appealing. My doctor then recommended an Osbon penis pump which cost a couple of hundred dollars. When I tried the pump, it sucked my scrotum into the pump cylinder and slammed a testicle into the pump cylinder. It hurt so bad I threw up. The pricey Osbon pump ended up in the garbage. So here I am. My libido has always been very high and seems to be getting higher as I age. I am still very attracted to women and, have no interest in a sexual relationship with men. I don't really care for the company of men all that much and never have. Between the internet and satellite TV, I am bombarded with pornography. While I do watch a fair amount of porn and sexually explicit shows on TV, it does nothing to assuage my libido. I hate sleeping alone, and I hate the notion of nothing but platonic relationships with women. Over the years I learned how to do a satisfactory job of performing oral sex, however, even the ladies of my age still want sexual intercourse in their lives and to be honest, I would not be interested in a women who did not want sex. I have been so lonely for female sexual companionship that I have met with several prostitutes, and it is nice to be able to touch and talk with an attractive nude woman, but then I have to go back to my empty lonely place. Is there any way that I could reestablish the ability to have orgasms? Does anyone have an ideas or information as to how I could achieve an erection and failing that, how do I shutdown my libido?

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Overactive Thyroid - But Under Active Symptoms?

I am 33 years old and have just been diagnosed with having OA Thyroid, but have symptoms of UA Thyroid. I have always struggled with my weight and bloating (from having food intolerances), but have recently gained a lot more weight than normal, despite eating sensibly, walking everywhere (as I don't drive) and swimming.

I have days where I feel really thirsty and have to drink lots and lots of water, unable to concentrate, have a husky voice and morning coughing/ gunk on my chest, rapid heart rate, anxiety, feel achey and exhausted all the time. I also have Fibromyalgia (was diagnosed in 2005). I used to work full time for 17 years, but recently had to reduce my hours to part time, where I constantly felt ill...and I have now had to leave work altogether.

What I don't understand is how I can have the symptoms of UA but be OA. The Doctor has prescribed me 5mg of Carbimazole to take 3 times a day. No Propranolol yet, but I have taken these before as I used to suffer with high blood pressure.

I am worried that I am going to gain even more weight on this medication, when I have already gone up nearly two dress sizes from being so ill. Is this medication usually only given for people with OA? Will the effects be reversed in my case, where I have UA? Are there many of you out there who have the same symptoms as me and who are taking this medication and if so, what has happened in your situation?

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3 Surgical Abortions And 5 Miscarriages

I m in a relationship with my boyfriend from last 4 years....now he's gonna be my fiance.

In last 3 years.......I had 3 surgical abortions...

5 miscarriages...

Although I don't want to get pregnant at least for 2 years..till we get married.

But now..I noticed that from last abortion on 25th November 2013......after 1 month....we had unprotected sex almost after every 3rd day till yesterday......but I haven't got pregnant.....

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Under Active Thyroid, Sjogren's Syndrome, IBS And Memory

I was diagnosed with underactive Thyroid 18 months ago by a doctor who was just standing in for my regular doctor, I had been going to the doctors for 2 years with little complaints but nothing was done as I had been on antidepressants. Since starting the Thyroxine 100mg daily I don't feel any better. My doctor even told me depression can do things to the body like the symptoms I am having.

10 months ago I started a new job 3 months into the job my hands began to swell and I have pains in my fingers the doctors took a blood test but said there was nothing wrong however I saw another doctor at my surgery and she referred me to the hospital rheumatology . The specialist took another blood test as the one my doctor took showed an abnormality, she also sent me for several other tests. Once all the tests where back the specialist diagnosed Sjogren's Syndrome and mild rheumatoid Arthritis in two fingers that don't hurt as much as the others! I have been on Naproxen & Plaquenil for 2 months and due to go back to the specialist in September.

But I still don't feel any better!! and my IBS has become worse. I have changed my doctors practice as I have lost confidence in my previous doctors however I am not sure this new practice will be much better!

I had my first appointment with the doctor I told her my symptoms and for the past 3 weeks I have been in pain with IBS, she concentrated on this problem and stated that I should come back again as "10min appointments were not long enough to go through all the issues I have." Told me to book for another blood test which will be next week.

Long and Short- does anyone else relate or recognise these symptoms?

1. For the past few years I have been having problems with my memory. I forget what people have said to me, forget to lock the door, where I have put things what I was going to do next. I have always been a little scatty but it seems to be getting worse and many times it is only other people reminding me that I realise that I have forgotten or not done something.

2. Lethargy, weary even after just waking up but gets worse around lunch time and by tea time I feel like I should be in bed. I have always slept approx 7-8 hours but I don't feel refreshed after sleep.

3. Painful cramps, wind, constipation I will only go to the toilet if I have Movicol or a few halves of Guinness. My urine is dark and sometimes cloudy

4. Dry Skin and itchy spells where I could scratch the skin off, Dry eyes and mouth

5. Aches and stiffness all over and clicking wrists, elbows,shoulders and knees

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Yeast Infection :: Not Sexually Active. How To Stop It??

I'm 20 years old, and i have had a lot of vaginal discharge. It looks like cottage cheese, it does not smell bad. it doesn't itches at all. I had taken medicine for it 1-2 months ago. I inserted my finger in the vagina and tried to take out of of this discharge, it was about a 50 cents point of discharge. I usually get sick a lot and take medicines and my period is irregular. I know its not an STD because I'm not sexually active.... I read in another forum that inserting a Vitamin C pill will help you balance your PH, is it true? This is the second time it happens!!! I do not know what to do!! is there a special diet or things i should it that will help me balance my Ph..... I read that eating orange helps, but I'm allergic.... Ps: I'm not allergic to vitamin C. Should i try that then?

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Plan B - 3 Weeks After Surgical Abortion

My procedure was 3 weeks ago (Dec 3). 11 days later I had unprotected sex but took plan b the next morning. That fri (16th day mark) I had symptoms of ovulation - discharge, light cramps. I hadn't bled in about a week. This past Monday (19th day mark) I started heavier bleeding bleeding cramps again. I went through 1 tampon a day and now have fatigue with cramps.

Anyway, I'm thinking out loud here:

Could I have ovulated around the 2 week mark (just after plan b) and the bleeding is caused by my ovaries adjusting? Would plan b still affecting my hormones 10 days later and is the culprit behind my bleeding/cramps? Finally, is it possible an egg has been fertilized (pregnant) although I've bled semi heavily since then?

I'm aware having an abortion will throw your body out of wack for some time- so the plan b on top of it makes for complete hormonal/uterine chaos.

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Surgical Menopause After Hysterectomy :: Bioidentical HRT?

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I would like some advice on HRT. I have read about bioidentucal HRT, but don't know if it is just hype. There are also gels, creams, implants, tablets, oestrogen only or combined HRT. I just need to hear what has worked for others. I have no family history of cancer, but I do of heart disease. I myself am healthy but I am about five stone overweight. I would like to protect myself against osteoporosis, that is my main priority I think. I am 47 and had not started the menopause before my op. Any anecdotal advice much appreciated.

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Surgical Menopause After Hysterectomy - Hot Flashes

I was 28 when I had my total hysterectomy, I am now 35 and the hot flashes are still winning:(  I went from having hot flashes every 45 minutes on the dot, around the clock, to having them every few hours around the clock.  I refuse to take HRT.  Regardless the only thing that has helped so far is Black Black Cohosh, herbal supplement.  I recently (December 2010) decided to venture into the world of acupuncture.  So many people says it works to completely eliminate or help with hot flashes.  When I went to a very reputable acupuncturist she told me it may not help because I've been having them for so long:(  To date I've had 5 sessions of the acupuncture.  No relief, in fact maybe more intense hot flashes.  I am still being hopeful and continuing treatment.  The other medicine my doctor gave me right after my hyster was Effexor.  That medication is an anti-depressant.  It is supposed to help with the hot flashes also.  I'm guessing due to the fact that it gives me decreased sensitivity to stress!  I've asked every doctor I've encountered how long will the flashes last?  Not one single doc can give me an answer.  Kinda absurd eh!  Well hopefully some of the things I've shared can help someone else.

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Herpes :: I Kissed A Girl With An Active Cold Sore (HSV 1)

I'm negative for both hsv1 and 2, last checked in 2013, and have been cautious in the dating scene. I've been dating this girl for two months, and it definitely is not going to be serious, so I wouldn't want to catch hsv1 from her.... In the past week I noticed she had what I thought was a pimple just below her lip (center of her chin). I saw her for 3 days when it was red. I assumed it was a pimple.... Yesterday I noticed that same red spot had scabbed over, and she said that spot appears every 6 months or so... It was clear to me at that point that it's a cold sore. So for 3 days of kissing that red spot, and then 1 quick kiss with that scab yesterday, is it now a guarantee that I am infected??

Also, I got a valtrex prescription, per recommendation from the doctor. I know it wont help prevent an infection, but anything to bring up my chances, I will do. I really do not want to get hsv1, I have other health complications which lower my immune system and would make hsv1 much worse for me.

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Surgical Excision Mole Removal? Shave Necessary?

Is is necessary to shave your hair for a surgical excision mole removal on the scalp? I'm a 29 year old female with long hair and my dermatologist says she must shave off a section of my hair so hair doesn't grow into the wound. The mole is about the size of an eraser and located near the crown of my head.

I'm very worried about the aesthetic result. Is this usually necessary or should I get an opinion from another doctor? I really don't want to lose my hair. Also, is it likely that the mole removal itself will leave a bald patch?

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Hidradenitis Suppurativa :: Multiple Surgical Intervention Done

I am 34, I've had HS since I was 15-16 years old. I was diagnosed about 3 years ago. (Never knew what it was) I've been on antibiotics and had multiple surgical intervention done. On armpits, bottom, groin and under the apron of my belly. I regularly use a antibiotic gel and surgical scrub on my skin to keep flare up at bay. But I still have one under my arm and apron that won't heal. (Hole under my belly for 4 months now. I have an appointment to see a plastic surgeon. I am going to have a panniculectomy and the removal of my sweat glands under arms. I am nervous about it.. I was wondering if anyone has had it or know anyone that has.

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Surgical Abortion :: 2 Heavy Periods In A Month

hi i had my surgical abortion december 9,2015 everything went well light bleeding and a lil blood clots

i had my first period january 15th to 25th(10 days) its a heavy period and has lotsof blood clots coming out small-medium size everytime i go sit in the toilet and pee and when i go take a shower its like a water hose of blood with clots. ;( and after 3days i had my 2nd period again january 29 and i'm passing a small clots as well until now feb.1 still heavy any advice or are you ladies experiencing the same thing

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Abortion :: Want To Abort My Pregnancy (natural Not Surgical)

I m 34 yrs and I have missed my periods by 12 days and I felt I m pregnant, becoz I am experiencing nausea and the other symptoms . To confirm my doubt, I did the pregnancy test at home today morning and the result is positive.

I already have a 2 yr old baby .We want to take care of her and also I have joined my husband here in USA after 2. My husband and I agree to abort it. WHY?? Because we are not prepared for another baby as of the moment.

I don’t want to see a doctor, since I'm afraid to surgical abortion.

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Achilles Tendon - Surgical Route - My Experience

Achilles Tendon - Surgical Route.

I ruptured my Achilles Tendon in May 2014 playing football.

I went to my GP after one week since football injury not realizing the damage I had actually done.

I was unable to lift of my tip toes which started to worry me and prompt me to call the GP.

During my GP Visit I was told to go to A&E right away, I was told by the nurse at Hospital I had a sprained ankle, this was the 1st week of June 2014. I asked for a scan but he declined.

I went to my GP the 1st week of July to see why my "sprained ankle" was feeling worse and painful. My GP did the Thompson test and explain something was seriously wrong and may be a Rupture in my Achilles Tendon and booked me in for an MRI scan at Warwick Hospital.

MRI Scan was booked in for a week later, (Mid July). MRI Scan showed full rupture between heel and calf muscle.

After Warwick Hospital decided to not contact me for a week I called in and they lost my paper work, then they lost more paper work after I returned forms. It was so bad I complained to the NHS.

Late August 2014 I was put into surgery for a date in September which I was unable to attend due to a Holiday I booked back in January 2014.

Surgery re-scheduled for 20th October 2014. Since operation I had been in a hard cast for 2 weeks, I was then in a fiberglass cast for a further 2 weeks.

I had the cast removed on the 19th November 2014 (4 weeks + 3 days)

I am now in an open boot that supports me as I can walk in this freely without crutches as i can fill with air pressure to support me. I am also able to take off during the night to sleep which is a massive bonus.

I will be taking this boot off on the 7th of January 2014 (7 weeks in total)

I have read and spoke to many people who have been on the same path to recovery as me. It seems many people have been given physio to do whilst in the boot and also they haven’t had the hard cast or open boot on for as long as me.

I am 24 years old I would think being younger than most people I should be the one having the boot on for a lot less time not the other way round as it seems.

I also wrote his so everyone who is going through the recovery of a Achilles Tendon (Surgery repair) can see what i have been through.

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My question is can I trigger an outbreak by kissing her with an active sore? Or is it "safe"?

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