Sex / Intercourse :: No Feelings / More Effort Than Pleasure


May 21, 2012

Basically ever since i can remember, sex has been more effort than pleasure. This is extremely annoying as it can take a lot of time before i can orgasm. I can reach orgasm it just takes a lot of concentration and effort. This is with and without a condom. There is only one girl with which i have had regular intercourse with however, i have had sex with three other girls. Often when i'm having sex i realise that i'm thinking stuff completely unrelated, and i thought that when you're having sex it just feels good. However i often can't even recognise if i'm inside the girl or not...i.e we'll be having sex, i slip out and keep thrusting because i don't even realise. I thought there might be an issue with damaged nerves or something. So recently ive stopped masterbating(i used to do it daily) in the hope that this helps, however i have not been able to test out whether this helps or not. My other issue is that i can have a full strong erection just from lying next to my girlfriend, yet the second we get down to have sex, i cant get hard, and when i do it's never rock solid. i'm not the nervous type, so i've put aside the possibility of it being an anxiety thing. Any other ideas? This is an extremely uncomfortable situation for me to be in as i really like this girl. Even when i can get hard enough, i often go soft rather soon (five to ten minutes later) and then it never gets as hard again. please let me know if you can help! thanks a million, by the way, with one of my exes i was fully hard without a problem, but like i said, with limited sensitivity, and since her i haven't been able to stay fully hard with other girls.

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