Herpes :: From Last OR Most Recent Partner?
Jan 2, 2016
Only days after being with my latest partner I have what I believe to be my first outbreak. At first I thought it was vaginal tearing from rough intercourse but it's only seemed to have gotten worse in the last 4 days. I have an appointment with the doctor tomorrow but I want to be as prepared as possible to having the "talk" if the results are positive. From what I've read and know about having the chickenpox the virus can stay dormant in your spine and some people never have symptoms but if you do have symptoms does that mean you got it from your last partner or could it be possible that I received it from a previous partner?
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I went to see my doctor today due to painful bumps on my penis. After an examination, he concluded that I had the herpes simplex. I have only ever had sexual relations with one partner and both of us were virgins before we got involved with one another. Neither one of us had any stds.
I did have oral sex with my partner while she had a sore throat (just a common cold). My doctor said that that is how I got it. But I don't understand how her sore throat could have given it to me if she didn't even have the herpes virus!! Is this possible? How can it come from nothing?
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I've been seeing this sweet girl for a month and a half now.
I know her background pretty well, as she's a friend of a friend.
She's a shy, quiet and reserved person with no history of STDs, and has only had one sexual partner before me.
Five days ago, we kissed and had protected sex using a condom.
Last night after dinner, I noticed a tingling/slightly burning sensation on a small part of my upper lip.
It's a sensation similar to when you have really dry and chapped lips, and the skin starts to recover, except perhaps a little more intense.
I'm really paranoid about having contracted HSV-1 orally, even though I have none of the other symptoms usually associated with an outbreak.
Because I'm a germaphobe, I live my life more carefully than most others; never really come into physical, skin-on-skin contact with other people (minus handshakes and hugs), and always pay close attention to what I do whenever my skin is damaged a little from being dry or cut.
Neither she (19 years old) nor I (23) have ever had an outbreak of cold sores, but I'm aware that you can carry the virus around all your life without ever knowing - that goes for the both of us.
Both her and my dad do get occasional cold sore outbreaks.
I guess what I'm after here more than anything, is a rough estimate on how likely I am to contract HSV-1 from her, with all the above details taken into account.
As a worst-case scenario, let's assume that she is carrying the virus, but is completely asymptomatic.
What are the odds of becoming infected from asymptomatic shedding?
In other words, what sort of transmission rates am I looking at for asymptomatic shedding?
If what I'm feeling on my lip is the beginning of a cold sore, at what point in time should I be able to SEE something on the lips at the spot? Because I've been up close with a magnifying glass and a flashlight and the area looks perfectly normal.
A related, but I guess more of a bonus question:
I called my doctor earlier this week, in an attempt to set up an STD screening as my new relationship becomes increasingly intimate - I'm confident that I'm clean, but it would be nice to have that confirmed.
I asked for an STD test and would like testing for HSV-1 and HSV-2 included as well, to which she replied, puzzled, why on earth I'd want that?
I explained my situation and that I'd like to know my herpes status, so I'd at least know where I stand in relation to my new girl.
She then said that she saw no reason to test for that at all, especially since I've never had an outbreak.
To be honest, this reaction from a medical professional kinda shocked me.
If a patient requests a specific test for a lifelong, incurable disease, why would a doctor stall like that?
At the very least, shouldn't she be interested in trying to prevent the further spread of the virus, by allowing me to know if I already have it - or if I don't have it, so that I'll be a bit careful about what I do?
Any input except "oh get over yourself, cold sores are so common, everyone has them!"
I'll take any fighting chance I can get, if it means I get to live out the rest of my life without having to constantly worry about infecting others and having blisters on my face.
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So I've been "with" someone since August and I've only ever had one outbreak last October. I take the medication somewhat sporadically but more often if I know we are going to mess around. I was wondering if anybody with genital herpes has NOT given it to their partner when or if they have unprotected sex? It's possible right? I mean for your partner to not catch it? The doctor told me the meds would help reduce outbreaks and the chance of me giving it someone. Is this true? Has anybody had unprotected sex with someone and they didn't catch it?
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BF of 1.5 years recently had his first OB, culture came back positive (they didn't test for which type) [I go in Monday to have routine blood work, going to request them add HSV 2] Physician did not treat him for HSV as his 3 ulcers did not appear to be HSV to the provider. His ulcers were painless however his malaise, fever and chills night sweats for 5 days bout did him in. II have HSV1 since a child. I Have not had an oral outbreak for 5 months. I am very particular and persistently cautious at the first sign of lip tingle, as I how contagious herpes virus is and outbreaks are frustrating. Even through all my meticulous behaviors, he recently contracted HSV1 genital. I am hypothesizing from oral sex 12 days prior while I was menstruating I must of have been shedding oral HSV1 without any OB sign whatsoever. ( generally I break out during menstruration in the past) timeline is the best fit his IgG is neg leading me to believe a brand new infection for him. I am devastated that without an active oral outbreak I spread this to my partner.
Lifestyle, eating and supplement habits to read up on to prevent future genital outbreaks for him?
How often is HSV1 oral shedding asymptomatic?
How likely am I to get it HsV1 genital from him now?
Are there any additional precautions to take the first year beside condom use, no sex during any hint or active breakout?
Over the years will be begin to shed the virus less?
Thank you
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I have been in a committed relationship for almost 5 years. We are planning on getting married and having kids one day. Two weeks ago I went in to the Dr. because I nicked myself while shaving and I thought it had gotten really infected (maybe a rusty blade, yeast infection from my soap, to much sweating I wasn't sure). When I went in the Dr. told me it wasn't an infected wound it was a herpes sore next to a small nick. We got it tested and I came back positive for herpes.
I have only had 3 sex partners including my current partner and my partner has only been with me. The Dr. said it most likely came from one of my past partners. She said the virus can lay dormant for years before showing signs. However, I told my partner and he got tested. His test results came back saying he has been exposed to the herpes virus but that he did not have it. Which is a relief but at the same time confusing. How can he be clean if I've had it for possibly longer than 5 years and we've been having sex for 5 years? I don't want him to think I've been unfaithful and not to sound like a bad person but I wish he had come back positive so I wouldn't feel so alienated. I've read that the blood and urine test often come back negative because they are "weak" tests and the only way to confirm is by taking a sample from the sore it's self. So is it possible that he has the virus but it is currently dormant and that the test is not 100% reliable?
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I've recently been put on my birth control nexplanon, at first I was fine and dandy. But then I got my period, it was a dark brown color (usually a brownish-red) and it's lasted for almost a month. Any idea why this could be? Or If it's normal? I'd love to know.
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I ejaculate as soon as I penetrate my partner. It happens very quickly and I really don't know why. The moment my penis start penetrating I ejaculate. I am 28 and this is happening for years now. I tried the desensitizer, but it didn't really work. I do not know what is really the problem and how to fix it.
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Most who have ptsd ask for space from their partner.
Can you please tell me how long is this space: weeks, month, or months
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Having a rough time with anxiety and I believe a bit of depression that is being exacerbated by the anxiety. It all started last year after my partner committed suicide. He killed himself a week before I was due to graduate from university and start a brand new job. Obviously I was very distressed after this happened but chose to not have any time off work, not even a day in the hope that I could work through my emotions and keep busy. Now after being promoted and life starting to get somewhat better I' am probably worse now than when it first happened.
Could it be the fact that the emotional trauma of it all has eventually caught up with me now that I'm deciding to take time off to reflect? I'm experiencing panic attacks on the odd occasion however for the best part of day, every day I' am severely anxious and stressed in regards to my mental state, I just have no idea on how to relax.
My symptoms include chest pain, throbbing head pain, dizziness, lack of motivation, I get no enjoyment from seeing friends anymore because I'm always a nervous wreck with anxiety. If someone makes a loud noise or drops something then I jump a mile, I definitely think my nerves have been damaged from this experience if that is even possible?
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things just don't seem to be getting any better I can feel myself becoming detached from the world my family and my partner and friends all I do is sit in my room alone coz I can't face anyone and all I do is cry :-( had my tablets changed which I start tomorrow which I'm very anxious about.. I'm so scared of what my future holds if I can not get better.. I have everything to look forward too getting married getting my own place and everything is there for the taking but I can not seem to get myself out this rut and get myself back to work the thought terrifies me ! Really don't know what to do .......
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For about 3 months now, my fiance has had an intensely itchy area on the left underside of his scrotum. We tried numerous powders and creams, both medicated and unmedicated. Some would work for a few minutes to a few hours but nothing "cured" it. The area is very wrinkly and dry looking. He scratches and itches it so much that it starts to get raw. I stopped using any laundry detergent at all on his boxers and just washed them in water. He said it helps, he isn't as itchy as he was before, but its not going away.
My crazy mind is now going all over the place to try to solve this and I began to wonder....
I, myself, have been suffering from recurrent episodes of bacterial vaginosis for about 2 years. I treat it with vaginally inserted metronidazole and it goes away. Then, sometimes weeks, sometimes months later, it comes back. I just did some research and am going to try some home remedies for myself.
I find conflicting information online about men and a bacterial infection. I read that it is uncommon for men to get this and if they do they USUALLY have no symptoms. Is it possible that he got it from me and is now starting to show symptoms? And I only treat myself so are we just passing it back and forth? Maybe these are two completely different issues but I have to wonder and ask. I hate to see him so uncomfortable all the time, and I know I hate the symptoms I get with my BV.
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Recently found out that I have genital herpes. It's scaring me because I'm a lesbian and I feel like I will never be able to have sex again. I have a couple of questions.
I'm in a relationship with a woman, would she contract herpes by giving me oral sex when I don't have an "outbreak"? Can she contract the virus orally?
What's are the risks and probabilities?
Can you have herpes 1 in your genitals or is it only herpes 2 in your genitals. What does this really mean?
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I'm 17 and I first noticed a bump down there about a month ago. I didn't think anything of it until more appeared. I went to the doctor a couple days ago and she told me they were warts. I've only ever had one sex partner and he didn't (and still doesn't) have any warts. Why do I have them and he doesn't?
Also, I recently discovered that one of my warts is turning scabby and sort of black. Is that a good sign? How long should I wait to see if they'll heal without treatment?
I've read about home remedies to treat them as well. Should I try anything simple or just wait and see if they heal on their own?
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Hello! I was recently back in February diagnosed with hpv. I had full blood work done and I have no other diseases or infections. I've also not had sex since before the testing. I recently noticed I have two painful blisters, one on the inside of my labia and the other on the other lip. I shave and I've had ingrown hairs but these definitely don't feel the same. They are super uncomfortable. I'm unable to go to the doctor until The end of the week and wanted to see if anyone knew what they might be? And any temporary ideas for pain relief? Over the counters pain killers do nothing. Also, I have extremely bad allergies to pollen and with the pollen, came these blisters, so I am not sure if they are related. I've added pictures below. Thanks for the help.
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27 YO male. Been tested a few times with negative test results for HSV 1 and 2 IGG tests. However, from time to time, I get these little sores on the very corner of my mouth (generally on the right side, VERY small, and singular). They don't hurt terribly bad and don't really leave any crusting. Sometimes they are tender and red, but generally not painful (barely noticeable most of the time). I was curious to know if this has happened to anyone else and they found out what it was? I don't think it's herpes, but it shares some symptoms.
I'm fairly sexually active, but I am very cautious as to whom I sleep with, always wear condoms, and give a good check of someone's oral region before I engage in anything. Thoughts?
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I've been in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend for about 4.5 months. We started getting physical about a month ago. I'm a virgin and have yet to do anything physical with a man. He has limited experience. He told me he was tested last May after his last relationship ended and it came back negative. I'm the first girl he's been with since May. We started having oral sex about a month ago. We've gotten carried away and had it unprotected three times.
I got a rash between my butt cheeks about a month ago. No blisters, lesions or burning when i pee. After a week, it scabbed over. I noticed the scab was perfectly symmetrical on both sides. It was like one long scab on each side of my butt crack. Then, I noticed an increase in vaginal discharge. It scared the crap out of me. Normal color and consistency. No odor. Just a lot. I got tested for everything. It all came back negative. It was three weeks after our first encounter. One week after our last.
I went to the doctor. She diagnosed me with impetigo. As it turns out, me shaving that area and then wearing a tight thong and skinny jeans was a bad idea. I've used the cream faithfully and the rash fell off and went back to normal. A bit of itching but I think that's because skin is growing. I talked to my boyfriend about it. He insists that I have nothing to worry about and that in the only girl he's had unprotected oral with. I asked him to get an STD test and he complied. We have to wait a week for the results.
Over the past week? I've noticed a slight itching and burning around my pubic area. No bumps or lesions. No pain when I pee. Plus, I feel an excess of discharge when I wipe. I went to another doctor who gave me a prescription for Diflucan for a suspected yeast infection. She also did a Pap smear and sent it off to test for BV, trich, syphilis and chlamydia. However, in worried about herpes. I made a mistake and went to WebMD and everything points to herpes. Does this sound like herpes? Herpes wouldn't be completely symmetrical. Right?
Other facts that may be important.
I just started to use tampons instead of pads
I douched about three days before I got the rash.
I never wore cotton underway before this. I like cutesy underwear.
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My daughter recently had an encounter with unprotected sex with her boyfriend, he proceeded to tell her after sex that he had herpes and had only had it for 7 months with only 2 outbreaks, who knows if this is true or not. She broke up with him and I told her to go to the gynecologist and get screened for STDs. she has had no outbreaks and they have not had sex for 2 weeks. they said her pap smear was fine and they did blood work on her for hsv1 and hsv2. the MD called and said that her HSV1 was 67 percent and HSV 2 was 2.75. he said this was very low and that she has probably had it for a long time and did not contact it from this recent partner. I also read that combined testing of hsv1 and hsv2 can be false positives. she has had absolutely no symptoms at all. does this mean she has genital herpes or is there any other test that can be done to make sure she doesn't have it. she is 22 and having major panic and anxiety or this, it is breaking my heart.
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I was diagnosed with herpes when I was 19 years old. Fast-forward 35 years... I am experiencing my second recurrence. How common is this? Has this happened to anyone out there?
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I've been married for just shy of two years now. My wife has HSV-2. I've known about this from early on in our relationship. I've done my best to do my research, to learn as much as I could about the condition, once I learned she had it. I won't claim to be an expert on the subject, but I've learned a reasonable amount.
The Problem: She seems to still be spooked... if that's the right word.
We had both had somewhat active pasts, and so rather than rushing into things, we had agreed to wait until marriage. Well, long story short, as I say, we've been married for just shy of two years now, and we've yet to consummate our marriage. She won't let me even touch her. Hugs and kisses, yes, but there has been zero intimacy for the duration of the marriage. For the longest time, if I tried to talk to her about it, she'd just say, "I don't know" and get angry and close off. Recently, as we were talking, she opened up a bit more than she ever has, and she made a comment about "I don't want you to catch what I have." I told her I was aware that it is much easier for a female to catch it from a male, than it is for a male to catch it from a female. "I just told you that" she snapped, and that was the end of that conversation. (We'd just been looking at a pamphlet on HSV-2).
I understand that this is scary for her, and I understand that she is trying to keep me from getting this, but the mention above is about the only time in the two years we've been married, or the two years and change we were together before we got married. I'm kept literally at arm's length.
When we got married, she was taking val-whatever it's called, the suppressive medication, but she hasn't even been taking that for the last several months. I'm trying to be supportive, but I really don't know what to do anymore.
Am I wrong for wanting to touch my wife, hold my wife, to be intimate with my wife? Am I wrong for wanting to make love to my wife?
This is understandably, a wedge between us.
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Hi, can some one plz help me? I had protected sex and protected oral with this woman about 4 months ago. I think I had itchy thighs and the tip of my penis will have this weird felling from time to time, like a mild burn or a dull feeling. I took at test at 4, 6, 11, and 15.5 weeks and they were all negative for hsv 2. I was positive for hsv 1 but I had cold sore when I was little so idk if that's why it was positive. My hsv2 results have always been <.90 and haven't gone up or down. Now do y'all think those result are conclusive for hsv2 or should I keep testing?
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